Quarter Life Check-In: 25 Things I’ve learnt Thus Far

I recently turned a year older which led me to reflect on what I have learnt thus far. The eve of my birthday was particularly heavy and I journaled for hours to take stock. In this blog, I will share some of these life lessons that I’ve learnt from both experience and observation.

1. Kindness is a signature of the strong. It’s so easy to be mean and unbothered. Showing kindness and empathy is often harder.

2. My life is all Mine. I am in control of my life; it’s mine to live the way I want.

3. My gut feeling knows everything I need to know. I should trust it more often.

4. Life is happening now. Don’t wait to live. Don’t wait for your goals to come true to start living.

5. Work on your craft. You may not be the best but you have to start from somewhere.

6. Build a strong prayer life. It’s important to have a personal relationship with God. It grounds you  in ways that make you believe that you are  worthy of God’s love and having the best of the universe.

7. I am good enough. I am enough as I am. I did not believe this for a long time.

8. Importance of family and friends. Love your people as best as you can. Oftentimes the only person who wants the absolute best for you is your mum. Cherish her every way you can.

9. I am mine. At the end of the day, your life is up to you, everyone else is thinking of themselves.

10. Don’t be afraid of perception. Don’t be so worried about what people will say.

11. All that I know is that I know nothing. So learn and listen.

12. Two minds are better than one. Talk it out with trusted people in your life. They may know or think of something you could not think of.

13. Be content. There is so much peace in being content with where you are in life right now, even as you work towards more.

14. Be grateful. No matter what, there is always something to be grateful for.

15. Take a moment. Pause and think about it. Before reacting to anger, before saying yes to a friend, every decision that you make has  some impact on your life so take the time to pause and think about it.

16. Comparison is a thief of joy. 

17. Take action. You can create concepts and plan all you want, but results come from taking action. 

18. Self-reflect. Learn from your mistakes and work towards becoming better.

19. Eating well is an act of self-love. Try to do right by your mind, body and wellbeing by maintaining healthy practices like eating better, moving your body, 

20. Affirmations work. Talk to yourself like you would a dear friend and affirm that you are worthy of your wildest dreams. Affirmations have helped me gain the right posture to approach life.

21. When people show you who they are, believe them. You need to have a sweet balance between giving second chances and walking away.

22. Your daily habits matter. Every action is building towards who you will become. Hopefully, we can all learn to build little by little instead of demolishing little by little.

23. Respect yourself and others will respect you. Yes they may not always respect you but they will learn how to treat you.

24. God’s timing is the best. I have learnt that just because you want something so badly and you work towards it doesn't mean that it will automatically happen. Sometimes  it’s just not time. But for this I chose to stand on the scripture: Isaiah 60:22, When the time is right, I, the lord will make it happen. 

25. It’s not all about You. Try to view the world without you as the epicenter of it and try not to take things so personally. 

I’m curious what you think of these lessons. Feel free to leave a comment or share your own lessons. 

Cheers to a more reflective week ahead.

Till next time. 

Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.